I think everyone’s got it wrong anyway, and the true phrase is “sole mate,” since everyone seems to be looking for “the one” and what does soul have to do with it anyway? But still, Sasha read me this passage when she was reading Eat Pray Love many years ago, and now I read it to you, or rather you can read it to yourself:

“Your problem is you don’t understand what that word means. People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that’s holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then they leave. And thank God for it.”